WRITTEN BY Aaron Thompson
Aaron Thompson is currently the Assistant Director of Student Conduct and Conflict Resolution at the University of Texas at El Paso. She is a native ATLien, and likes to upload videos on YouTube in her spare time. She is currently reading “The Total Money Makeover” by Dave Ramsey and loves to binge watch episodes of “Fixer Upper” on repeat.
I feel like God has led through me so much in my entire life. All my mistakes and all of my hardships were lessons – and I know that sounds so corny, but it is so true. I have been turned down for jobs when I made it to the final round, I have been in relationships I thought would last forever, but they seemingly did not.
All of the times I felt like, “God, why me” – He was pushing me into a better tomorrow.
I just couldn’t see it at the time. Every day of my life moving forward, I try my very best to know that my experiences today, whether good or bad, are always a lesson. Figuring out what the lesson is the challenging part!
The lessons I learned that are most striking in my mind at the moment are that you cannot fix anyone, and as you grow older, it’s okay to let some of those relationships go. I have lost many friends over the years. People grow apart and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I felt guilty when I grew out of people, but sometimes it is a necessity for your own light to shine.
My journey has made me truly independent. I feel like I do not need anyone but my family. I am so strong and wise. I have been figuratively beat up and kicked, but I never stayed down for long. My tenacity is something I absolutely love about myself.
When I want it, I get it.
School has been such an instrumental part of my life. I went to a multicultural elementary school, to an all white, Catholic high school, to a historically black college, and then back to a very diverse graduate program. I have seen it all. It feels good to say I have a master’s degree with NO DEBT, and that I will be pursuing my doctorate as soon as possible. In the field I’m in Student Affairs, a terminal degree is a necessity to climb the ladder. One day I want to be Dean of Students or Assistant Vice President of Student Support, and I know my education will be the foundation I need to get there.
Finding what I was good at was hard. It was not easy AT ALL. I went to college and got an education degree, graduating in 2013. I took a year off in 2014 and decided to continue and get a Master’s Degree in teaching. Once I got in the program and started my student teaching, I absolutely hated it and I thought to myself, “What have I done?” I took an entire year to figure out what I wanted, and I still was not happy. However, I got an assistantship, a job on campus where they pay for my tuition, in the Dean of Students Office, and this is where I found my love for higher education and Student Affairs.
Going back to my earlier statement of asking god, “Why me?” He knew all along I was meant for higher education, I just didn’t know it at the time.
And even after I graduated from my master’s program in December 2016, it took me 7 months to land my first job, all the way in El Paso, TX at that! I have learned to be patient, and know God is always with me and always has His plan.
My YouTube channel, TeAmoAaron is for me. I started it in October 2014, and it really is a place just for me to express myself. It’s like an online diary. I am so happy with the progress I’ve made, and it has made me so confident in myself. I love interacting with women online, and that’s the true reason I do it.
I want to be a light in someone’s life-like so many YouTubers have been for me. I want to inspire and encourage young girls to know that it is okay to be yourself! Because I did it. because I went to college. because I went natural. because I got a master’s degree. because I PRESERVED through my times. I want them to know they can do it too.
I think going to an amazing historically black college changed my life. I saw so many gorgeous black women with natural hair that it made me want to embrace who I really was too. They inspired me so much and they’ll never know how much that meant to me. But I never thought of myself as someone with a “brand”, it sounds really cool typing it! I think I have been myself, and people just gravitate towards that for some reason. It is so much easier nowadays with social media and YouTube to find people who look like you and be inspired. That’s all I ever wanted to be for others. If I never get one more follower, I know that I did my job by touching the lives of so many thus far.