The Discovery of Self Discovery

Written bY Simon Demisiew

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
– Romans 12:2

In a time where people are cyclically going through an existential crisis, we find ourselves scouring the WORLD for meaning. 

The reason why we’re on this Earth and what purpose our existence serves. I’ve met so many brilliant people filled with knowledge and assets, yet there usually seems to be a void in their lives. They face deep conviction in the existence of something bigger than them that they can neither explain nor prove. They somehow feel this, and it influences their daily decisions. It’s so easy for us to scavenge the world looking for our identity and purpose to define who we are and why we’re here. I’ve come to the understanding that by searching for my identity within this world, I am willingly empowering people to pervert, manipulate, and redefine who I am.

“I never knew that the way people described you would become a prison until they did it…” – T.D. Jakes 

I’m also learning the importance of authenticity. Continually conforming to what society saw me as prevented me from ALL that God had wanted to do in my life. By allowing these various titles to imprison us, we consequently limit the impact the Holy Spirit has on our lives.
As a mental health advocate and full-time student of life, I am often exposed to various situations in which my faith has been stirred and my understanding of the world and perception of “reality” continue to be contorted. Another reoccurring lesson that God seems to reveal to me regularly is the importance of discipline. Understanding that without discipline, we merely become a blade of grass wavering in whichever way the wind decides to push us. This is a lesson I believe should be used as one of the pillars in achieving a spiritually fulfilling life.

“A man who is not a slave to his desires is a DISCIPLINED man. A disciplined man is a dangerous man.” 

Without discipline and consistency, it becomes easy for us to be navigated by our emotions which are unstable, unreliable and at most times, selfish. I’ve noticed that the moment that I detach from my routine and discipline slowly begins to erode, I allow certain distractions to leak back into my life. This is dangerous and one of the leading culprits of lukewarm Christianity. The things you’re doing right now, your daily habits and routines, might not have any tangible benefits at the moment, but they help shape the various monuments of life. Not only is it beneficial for the desired life, but discipline is also imperative to your overall well-being.

“Love yourself, so that love won’t be a stranger when it comes.”
– Jennifer Lewis

I can’t stress enough the importance of taking the time to know and love yourself. We live in a time of self-hate and the need for instant gratification more than ever before. We can’t seem to love who we are because we’re constantly comparing to those we see in media and we want everything NOW, even love. Unfortunately, love is built, not “found.” What we fail to realize is that we can never genuinely love anyone else until we take the time to love ourselves truly. I found the true meaning of love through Christ’s grace. He continues to love us and stay faithful, regardless of our fluctuating loyalty and disobedience. His expression of unconditional love towards us is a template of how we should love ourselves and each other. Understanding that our past mistakes don’t define who we are and that we are all imperfect beings.

“Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes. Always perseveres. Love never fails.”
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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